A couple of months ago Owner pointed out that i had started to get fat and needed to lose weight. It was,as Al Gore might have said, ‘an uncomfortable truth’. But true it was. My weight, which had been about 9.5 stone (about 60kgs) for most of the time we’ve been together, has recently gone up to over 10 stone (63.5kg). This is still way below its peak in my early twenties when i ballooned to 13 stone (82.5kg) but, nonetheless is a warning sign that i was letting myself go. As Owners wife i should keep myself in shape and looking at my best for Her and so clearly something needed to be done.

i already do daily pilates-type stretches to keep my back mobile (anyone who has followed this blog over the years may recall that i spent two months almost totally immobile a few years back as a result of two bulging discs in my lower back). However, perhaps as a result of my no longer cycling as i did before my back problem and also now working from home a lot and having quit smoking a few years ago my weight has slowly crept back up. Owner highlighted this and the need for remedial action on my part. She also stated that She wanted me to find exercise routines that we could do together and to research accordingly.


YouTube is a wonderful resource for many things and this includes workout videos. i identified a number of video routines to show to Owner for Her to select from. A shortlist was identified which, incorporated into a weekly routine, provide a good full body workout. They are all ones that can be done at home and only require a matt and some dumb bells. i now have a schedule of exercises to be completed every weekday which incorporate the routines below.

  1. Bridal workout (10 mins)
  2. Tank top arms (10 mins)
  3. Little black dress (10 mins)
  4. Core body (20 mins)
Owner and i generally do about 20 minutes a day from the above list during the week (with a break at the weekend). All of the routines are relatively straight forward and Owner agrees that they will, and are, helping to bring my body back into shape.

In addition to these exercises though i am also keen (and have the support and encouragement of Owner) to build and shape my butt. Over the years my pussy has been trained and stretched to become more accommodating but i hope to also make my butt more attractively round, firm and fondle and fuckable for Owner. She expects me to develop and maintain my body for Her pleasure and i want to present Her with a nice, round, bubble butt to enjoy. 

Once again, YouTube provided both the inspiration and advice i sought to help me start to try and develop my butt. In particular, there is a fitness instructor and bikini model called Vicky Justiz (see picture below) whose butt and thighs i would love to have myself (the small matter of gender difference aside!).

Fitness instructor  + bikini model Vicky Justiz
Vicky (and others) has a great range of butt workout videos available on YouTube and from these i have developed the following daily butt workout routine (which i am trying to do every weekday).

  1. Bikini butt workout part 1 (10 min)
  2. Bikini butt workout part 2 (10 min)
  3. 50 x narrow leg squats

   4. 50 x wide leg squats
  5. Intense bigger butt workout (50 repetitions of each move shown in this short video - this is the final part of my daily fitness routine and the video features a different instructor - Diana Levy.


Its early days but i am hoping that if i keep doing these, and maybe add in some extra weights as well over time, then i can start to develop a nice bubble butt for Owner to enjoy. Hopefully these butt exercises combined with the other exercises i am now doing will help me to both lose some weight as well as to firm, tone and shape my body in a way that Owner finds satisfying and pleasing. 
The other day fellow bloggers Mistress Marie and her slave David requested that i update when Owner had decided what punishments were due to me for my unacceptable behaviour and actions last weekend. Yesterday Owner graciously presented me with my list of punishments just as we were settling down to watch my annual dose of Eurovision delight (well done to the excellent Conchita).

First, Owner has made it very clear that any repetition whatsoever on my part of my failures of the past weekend will see my current wife development phase extended for a further 4 months before i have any chance of progressing onto the next stage of my development. More specifically, for each of my offences Owner has determined the following;

1 - Leaving expired food in fridge and allowing bread to go mouldy - our next big supermarket shop is to be paid for entirely by me. Furthermore to study this article in the Organised Housewife and develop a more organised way of storing and keeping food and present Owner with a proposal for a 'more organised kitchen'

2 - Not emptying bins before leaving for the weekend - to empty bins outside each day wearing no shoes - just in bare feet with painted nails (ours is a communal building)

3 - Having an alcoholic drink without permission - no alcohol permitted until we go on our next holiday

4 - Buying a picture (thus spending money) without consulting Owner or seeking Her permission - i am to sell some of my possessions on e-bay to offset the expenditure

5 - Not texting Owner to check She approved of the clothes i proposed wearing one of the days we were apart (i always normally check daily with Her what i can wear) - to wear the same clothes every day next week

i am extremely grateful to Owner for these punishments and, all things considered, i think She has again shown what a kind and considerate Owner She is by taking time to devise such punishments. i know i am lucky that the consequences were not more sever on this occasion.

i also mentioned a few weeks go that Owner had sent me the link to an excellent blog about a Canadian lady who attempted to live her life with her partner as a 1950s Housewife. The blog is a very interesting (and funny) read. Owner instructed me to suggest ideas to write 1750 words for Her about to how i too could become more of a 1950s style housewife for Her. i duly drafted my thoughts and Owner has identified an initial set of my suggestions that i am now to enact and incorporate into my life with Her. These additional activities are as follows;

1 - Create a More Comfortable and Beautiful Home


  • Wife to undertake an inventory of the contents of every room (including the loft) for Owner to indicate if to stay or go. Wife to make necessary arrangements and research potential replacements if needed.
  • All storage space and furniture to be efficiently, neatly and well organised and kept that way at all times.
2 - Always Prepare Nutritious and Tasty Meals



  • Wife to prepare ‘batches’ of soups, stews, breads etc and to freeze to ensure there is a constant supply of home-made meals. 
  • Only low-fat meals are to be made. Wife to learn how to calculate the rough calorific value of foods and to keep her daily calorie intake within parameters agreed with Owner
3 - Economise Household Income

  • Wife to develop, practice and attain an adequate standard in clothes and accessory making skills to enable Her to start making items for Her or Owner or for others as directed by Owner.  
  • Wife to cut-out, collect and use any vouchers and to purchase regular household items in bulk when they on special offer at supermarket etc.
4 - Put Effort Into Appearance
  • Wife to shave her body every two days and moisturise daily 
  • Wife to attend hairdressers every two months and ensure hair is kept tidy and neat
5 - Provide a Supporting and Relaxing Home for Owner to Succeed
  • When at home complete cleaning duties during day to create more time to spend in Owners company in evening
  • Unless researching on behalf of Owner wife is not permitted to use the internet after Owner returns home from work on a week day or during afternoon/evenings at weekends. Time to be spent instead either socialising with Owner or practising Her skills or making clothes/crafty items
Some of these changes and developments have already been implemented by me and are working well (i.e. not using my laptop after Owner returns from work or in the afternoon/evenings at weekends) whilst others will take a while to be developed and implemented i.e. the clothes making skills. However, we are both certain that they will help to further my development as Owners perfect (1950s) wife.

[Edited 12th May as when page originally published 11th May it there was an error on the page  which prevented previous blog entries from displaying, original page deleted then re-published as above]

i am still awaiting Owner response to my misdemeanours last weekend. However, in the meantime Owner instructed that i share with you these photos that i took yesterday . Earlier this year, whilst Owner was in the midst of Her (successful) search for a new job, i mentioned to Her how i would love to one day be Her secretary. At the time, although i was being serious, i thought Owner had dismissed it as just another 'interesting yet impractical' idea from Her wife (me).

i did not mean that i felt i could immediately become Her secretary. However, i did believe that as Her career blossomed whilst mine flatlined, and my focus was increasingly away from work and on my own development and growth as Her housewife - something i was revelling in - that there could be a time one day in the future when i could devote efforts towards the furtherance of Owners career and life goals. It would actually make me extremely happy and fulfilled to one day be in a position to devote all aspects of my life to Owner and no longer have any outside work distractions getting in my way of serving Her and helping Her fulfil Her ambitions and aspirations.

Anyway, the more i thought about the more feasible the idea seemed. Not immediately but maybe in the years ahead we might be in a position where i could  take the voluntary redundancy perennially being offered to people where i work whilst at the same time Owner may have accrued enough experience and contacts to strike out on Her own as boss of Her own business. As Her wife my role could then become both that of housewife and secretary.

Since first mentioning it to Her the idea of my one day becoming Her secretary has since been mentioned on a number of occasions by both of us, and not as something totally impossible but rather as a 'wouldn't it be nice if...' type scenario. As an idea it has been set free and embraced by us both as something appealing and maybe something to aim towards longer term. i may be being ridiculous here but i always fantasised about having a relationship as wonderful as that with Owner and of being taken by Her as Her wife. However, before i met Her i never thought such a relationship would ever be possible - but that is exactly what happened. So, never say never...maybe one day i will indeed be instructed to come into Owners office and take some notes.  i would certainly love to live full time as Owners housewife and Her secretary too.

Anyway, yesterday i did a little photo shoot for Owner with me dressed-up as Her (currently just fantasy but who knows in the future?) secretary. You can see the photos below. Oh and by the way, the glasses are new and are mine - i apparently have become short-sighted - but i think they are rather cute


and of course secretaries should be kept locked up!



Regular readers of this blog will know that about eight months ago Owner put me on a training programme to develop into Her ideal wife. The programme consists of a series of phases and only after i have successfully completed one phase and demonstrated i can maintain the standard and change in behaviour She expects am i permitted to ‘advance’ to the next stage, Each new stage come with new expectations and demands of me whilst, obviously i am also expected to maintain the standards etc attained in the previous stage. Owner calls this development plan my ‘Plin, Plan, Plon’ and i am currently at stage 3.

So far, with the odd slight relapse or failing on my part, we have both been very pleased with my development. We both feel that i have improved significantly in this time period in my submission to Her and my evolution as Her ideal wife. We also recognise that this is an ongoing project and one that, at each stage, will further ratchet up the degree of my submission and push me further and harder to become an even better wife for Her. In the almost nine years we have been together (just under eight of which have been spent living a Female-Led relationship) it has been these past 8 months since the creation of Owners first ‘Plan’ that have seen my most marked development and improvement. It has been far more effective a training programme than i think either of us ever first imagined. What is more, i love how i have developed and want nothing more than to keep develop-ping further and further, to submit myself ever more deeply to Owner and continue to progress and evolve into the wife She deserves. Owner too has been equally pleased with how my submission to Her and transition into Her wife has progressed. In short, things had been going really well.

All this makes this next part really hard to understand. This weekend just gone all of that went wrong. Owner and i unfortunately had to spend the weekend in different countries due to family circumstances – and we both really hate being apart from one another. I said goodbye to Her Saturday morning and we weren’t reunited until the Monday afternoon. However, when we were reunited Owner was justifiably bitterly disappointed about how i had behaved in our absence. Specifically, i had;

  • Left expired food in our fridge
  • Allowed bread to go mouldy in the bread bin
  • Had not emptied the bins before i left to visit my family
  • Whilst away had consumed alcohol without having been given prior permission to do so by Owner
  • Spent money buying a picture for the flat without either seeking Owners permission to spend money or consulting Her first about the picture
  • Had not texted Her on the Sunday morning to request Her approval to wear the clothes i had got out to wear that day
i too was mortified that i had allowed things to go so completely wrong. Owner questioned whether i was actually committed or not to the Plan and to my development? i sought to reassure Her that indeed i was and have re-doubled my efforts this week to ensure i act and behave exactly as i should and as She should rightly expect me to. Although, this episode excepted, we have both been of the opinion that i had developed and improved a lot i had clearly become terribly complacent and had completely let Her down this weekend. i have a lot to do to demonstrate to Her that i am indeed completely serious, as i am, at wanting to develop and to behave and act exactly as expected as Her wife.

Owner is still deciding what the consequences of my actions (or lack of) will be. However, for me the worst consequence has already occurred, i have caused Her to question my commitment to developing as Her wife. This shames and mortifies me greatly. i know that my actions will speak more loudly than any words and so i just hope that i can prove and demonstrate to Owner that, although totally unacceptable, my behaviour was an aberration on an otherwise continually improving and developing path.


Owner and i have recently introduced some changes to my routine and how i spend my time which we hope will further increase my productivity and output for Her and, in turn, enhance my development as Her ideal wife. The changes are quite simple but we both feel they could have a very beneficial effect. 

To explain, my average weekday is characterised thus. We get up, i do my exercises then make Owners breakfast, prepare Her lunch, pack Her work bag, clean in the bathroom then see Her off to work (if She is working early that day i will accompany Her to the station and carry Her bag for Her). Then i get ready and start work – i work from home most days now. At the end of the day i then meet Owner at the station and carry Her bag home, prepare and make dinner, wash-up, clean in the flat, study etc and then prepare things for bed. In short, my evenings can be quite time pressured and i noticed that i was not always spending the time or paying the attention to Owner that i ought to be. i was focused on my chores and tasks but, as a result neglecting Her. 

Added to this, i also would dip in and out of the Internet a lot of the time. We have tried in the past to reduce the time i spend distracted on-line and, whereas i have got better than i once was, i still spend a lot of time quickly checking things because my laptop is generally always on. Like in a bar with a TV playing (a pet hate of mine as a result) i find it very difficult not to get drawn to the little flickering screen to the detriment of what and who is around me.
  
Accordingly, as of now we have implemented some changes that we hope will address these issues and also enable me to take on more activities and duties. The first change is a simple one. As i work mostly from home there is  no reason why i should be leaving most of my cleaning duties to the evening when my time is tight. Instead, i could do them during the window of time between when Owner leaves for work or i start working. Equally, i can dust/clean etc during teleconferences (of which i have a lot!) or during my lunch break. That way i am in less of a rush to get things done in the evening and can spend more physical time with Owner or be available for other tasks She may require.  

Secondly, apart from to access my Spanish learning materials, to play an exercise video on Youtube or to undertake any specific research Owner requests, my laptop now gets switched off and packed away at the same time as i go and collect Owner from the train station. This ensures i have no social or other media distractions during the evening and can instead focus my energies and time into other, more productive activities,  activities more becoming of a wife, such as knitting, massage etc. The plan is also that at weekends i will pack my laptop away after lunch each day. It is early days but i am quite excited about these new ways of organising my time and use of resources (laptop) and i feel that it could help further improve my productivity and development as Owners wife.