Interviewed by snooping sissy - part 1 of 2

A few months ago one of the followers of this blog, snooping sissy, approached Owner and i with a suggestion. Would it be possible for them to conduct a virtual interview with questions submitted by snooping sissy to be answered by me and, in one instance, by Owner as well?

Owner and i both loved the idea. It would make for a change to the usual blog format and so we replied that yes we would be happy to do so. Snooping sissy then submitted twenty questions. 

The following post sets out the first ten such questions submitted by snooping sissy and my (and Owners) answers. This post will be followed up in seven days time with part 2, in which the final 10 questions submitted and the answers provided will be revealed.

Owner and i would both like to thank snooping sissy for the thought they clearly put into the questions provided and for making the interview process an enjoyable one. Anyway, without further ado here are the first 10 out of 20 questions and the responses provided. All responses are by me unless otherwise indicated. Owner edited the responses i provided (as She edits all blog entries i make) to keep my answers clear and to the point.

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SNOOPING SISSY: Can you tell about your childhood, were you extroverted or an introvert? Did you engage in boys activities such as sport or other interests like reading or making models? Did you have any effeminate traits looking back?

POPPET: i was a fairly self-contained albeit extrovert child. We moved house a lot courtesy of my Dad’s job, he was a long-haul commercial airline pilot, especially when I was quite young. i went to 5 different primary/junior schools. It meant i had to learn to get along with other children and keep making new friends but I also learnt how to keep myself entertained. i was always happy in my own company but I would also play with others, boys and girls but i was never ‘one of the boys’ at school.

i wasn’t really good at sports other than running. i did play football at school (badly). i also swam but unlike my sister never competed or represented our county. The only sport that i have strong memories of playing were mixed boy/girl hockey matches and being amazed how violent the girls were. i also once fell over on the wing after being tripped up by one of the girls hockeysticks. The foul unbalanced her and she fell backwards and i landed face down between her legs. The memory of looking up and realising that my nose was almost touching her gym knickers is imprinted on my brain!

My dad was away for long periods so i was mostly brought up by my mum. i have a younger sister and the three of us all got along well. My dad was a bit of a stranger to me back then and we hardly ever did anything as father/son, except attend air shows or go on the occasional trip abroad with him (i adored spending time with the hostesses!). It was always my mum who took me fishing or spent any time with me. i also loved to meet my mum’s female friends – as an early teen i definitely had a crush on a number of them.

i liked doing solitary things like going fishing (i wasn’t very good at it but loved the peace of the pondside at dawn). The male friends i had were a bit geeky, we played Runequest and Dungeons & Dragons or other role-play games together.

However, i generally preferred to play with girls rather than boys. They fascinated me and from a very early age i wanted to know what it was like to be one, even if just for a short while. Some of the girls would pick on me, which i actually quite liked. i recall being chased across a field once by two girls in my class who then pinned me to the ground, one straddling my chest pinning my shoulders down and the other on my legs. Again, that is quite a strong memory.

Boys often scared me when i was younger (men still sometimes do). i am not physical. The last fight i had was when i was 11 and i lost. i have always tried to avoid any kind of physical argument.

i was pretty conservative and very much a ‘good boy’ as a teenager. My sister was the more rebellious one. I was probably the only teenage boy with a picture of the Queen on their bedroom wall, along with Kate Bush.

SNOOPING SISSY: When did you first realise that you maybe different from the conventional vanilla type? how did that manifest?

POPPET: As a child i wasn’t very creative, unlike my sister who was musically quite talented. One thing i did have though was a slightly kinky imagination from an early age. i had an action man toy as a child and i used to steal some of my mum’s nail polish and paint red stripes on his back, where he had supposedly been whipped. i also used to regularly draw pictures of underground tunnels and chambers and inside these chambers lots of naughty and quite perverted things would go on. Not the sort of things one might imagine the average 10 year old drawing. When i played Runequest with friends in my teens i would devise some quite kinky scenarios for their characters. So i guess i have had a ‘kinky’ side to my nature from a young age.

 Looking back it seems obvious but it wasn’t until i met Owner, in my mid-thirties, that i really knew. Even then i didn’t know the half of it! Prior to that there had always been certain adult magazines that appealed to me over others, i especially loved ones with dominant women and submissive men and would try to seek out those with ‘real-life’ stories. There were occasional moments of role play with previous partners but i knew i wanted something that wasn’t just a game.

i have always been quite nervous and insecure when it came to sex. My first real attempt with a woman was aged about 17. It was with a much older girl/woman, i think she must have been in her mid-late twenties, who i had met whilst out drinking with some friends. She was with her friends and, to cut a long story short, we all ended up at her friends house. She took me upstairs whilst everyone else carried on drinking downstairs. i was a bit drunk and very nervous and wasn’t able to get an erection. She went out of her way to ensure everyone else knew what a failure in bed i had been. She ran downstairs and told all my and her friends that i couldn’t get it up. The next day at college i was greeted with shouts of ‘floppy’ from my friends. Soon everyone in my year knew what happened and that nickname stayed with me until i left for university.

At the time it was a deeply humiliating and embarrassing experience. i didn’t attempt sex again for another few years and found it a really nerve-wracking/traumatic experience, as were most subsequent experiences in my 20s and early 30s. They often resulted in a failure on my part to get or maintain any sort of an erection. i loved trying to orally pleasure partners, side note – i hate the very idea of getting a blowjob myself and have never had one and have zero wish to ever have one. However, when it came to penetrative sex if i did manage to ‘get it up’ i would then struggle to last longer than a few thrusts and the memory of that first and spectacular failure would always be on my mind. 

In hindsight, i now realise that being humiliated like that was the best thing that could have ever have happened to me. It occurred at just the right age and moment in my life to have a profound and lasting impact on me. If i could somehow go back and thank the woman i would. 

SNOOPING SISSY: Which females did you admire when you were younger either due to attractiveness or in a general sense?

POPPET: i mentioned how i always found my mum’s friends quite attractive so had a thing for older women, although in the end it was a woman of the same age as me, Owner, who would be the one who i would fall for big time and who changed my life beyond all recognition.

When i was quite young i had a real crush on the dancers in TV programmes, performers like Pans People and Legs & Co. My mum tells me I would sometimes kiss the TV screen when I was little when they came on! i have always loved women who are strong and assertive, like Owner. That doesn’t necessarily mean they are physically strong, just that they know and speak their own mind. i would say that i admire women in real-life or female characters in movies/books/plays etc who are quite commanding, quite self-assured, confident, outspoken and assertive in their own way. Women who some men might say are ‘difficult’ (an incredibly sexist thing to say) i tend to really like. i also admire women who behave or act in ways that some people might find outrageous but who clearly could not give a shit what others might think. i am always impressed by women who manipulate men for their own ends, whether that be via their intellect, their looks or a deadly combination of the two.

My childhood and teenage preference for female company over male is as strong as it ever was. At work i have always preferred to be managed by women and to myself manage staff who are women. i delight when i see them progress up the career ladder. 

SNOOPING SISSY: What were your influences growing up, not specifically kink but including people and ideas that helped shape you into the wife you are today?

POPPET: My mum was quite a strong influence as she largely raised me as my Dad was away from home a lot and when he was home neither of us got on, as we didn’t really know each other. i also got on well with my sister.

i grew up being the one, along with my sister, who always washed and put away the dishes. i also learnt to cook and quite enjoyed it, baking especially. iI left home when I went to university and self-catered so i had to cook for and look after myself, although at the time my diet mostly consisted of cigarettes, alcohol and takeaway kebabs – in that order! i smoked from aged 18 through to about 42 when i finally managed to quit and have not smoked since. Owner also smoked (not as much as me) and She also quit at the same time.

i got my first part-time job aged 13 as a newspaper delivery boy. i then got a part-time job as a bakers assistant aged 15 (I had to go to work at 3am every Saturday!) and also worked part-time as a hospital cleaner and cleaning aircraft working nights at Gatwick airport. So i was used to cleaning from a young age even if i am naturally very messy and untidy if left to my own devices, which obviously i no longer am 

At sixth form college my history teacher was brilliant and ignited a passion for history, especially Cold War history which influenced by subsequent academic studies (BA, MA and PhD). 

i became very interested in politics and was quite politically active at University. My politics by then were on the left and i attended many marches and protests and became very interested in feminist theory and women’s history. My BA dissertation was on feminism. My politics remain left of centre but i have increasingly come to believe that what we need is a gynarchy and i now believe in and advocate for Female supremacy. Ironically, Owner does not share my views. Also unlike me She much prefers the company of men.

The writings of Elise Sutton helped me to realise that submission was not about what i wanted but should be about how i could make Owners life more comfortable and enjoyable. This may sound obvious but at the time it was a real jolt to me when i read her books (which i really recommend).  There was/is also an Australian Mistress, called Mistress 160 and her partner whom Owner and i became virtual friends with. She had an excellent blog and seemed to be quite the sadist, at least at the time some of the things she did seemed quite extreme to me. She was a real influence on our evolution and helped Owner to develop a domination style that suited Her. We are still in touch from time to time.

There have been other blogs and bloggers that have inspired me, some of whom i am in contact with and who are a constant source of inspiration. They will know who they are.

Owner has enrolled me on a number of courses over the years, all of which have helped to develop some of my more domestic skills, from sewing and knitting to pedicures, flower arranging and massage. i really enjoyed studying and learning new and appropriate skills.

SNOOPING SISSY: You have an interest in films with references to older movies on your blog, can you talk about the genres and films you like and what appeals to you about them? 

POPPET: Owner is the real film aficionado; half the time i will have forgotten the plot before the credits have stopped rolling. i don’t really like horror films, whereas Owner is a huge fan, as I scare easily and don’t like to be scared. i like films that emotionally move me. We both love the films by the Korean Director Wang Kar Wei and i also love Lovers of the Arctic Circle and the English Patient (although the book is better) – how can you not like a film with beautiful people, deserts and a biplane! The Rocky Horror Show was a late teen/early twenties house party staple and provided endless excuses to wear stockings. i also like some cartoons and comedies and film noir and anything with a femme fatale theme (for probably obvious reasons) but my favourite film of all time, because it is so wonderfully silly, has to be Flash Gordon. It also has quite a kinky scene in it which struck a chord in my adolescent brain 

i actually have a connection to the world of the movies and one of my claims to fame is that i have actually held an Oscar. 

Of the two of us, however, Owner is the real film buff. She grew-up on a diet of movies from a very young age. We tend to watch at least one or two movies a week together. Mostly at home but occasionally at the cinema.

SNOOPING SISSY: You recently went to a music concert for BabyMetal. What music have you listened to through the years and what has changed? What are some of your favourite songs?

POPPET: This is such a difficult question to answer as, with the exception of R&B boy bands i cannot think of a musical genre i do not like. My first ever album was the Eurythmics Touch, followed by Iron Maiden’s Aces High. According to my phone the records i most recently downloaded to my iTunes included songs by Destroy Boys, Olivia Rodrigo, BANKS, Miley Cyrus, Rage Against the Machine, Eyes Set to Kill, Sonic Youth, Delilah Bon and Zara Larsson. The first concert i ever attended was Big County. The best concert i have been to is a tie between BB King, Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds or the Yeah, Yeah Yeahs. i listen to anything from Gregorian Chant, punk, hip-hop, indie, ska, bangra, K-pop you name it, anything really except R&B boy bands. i tend to prefer female singers to male although there are some great male singers. i love sad songs, a particular fave is ‘Miss You’ by the brilliant Polly Scattergood from her 2013 album Arrows, and ones that are explicit and, in your face, or ones that just make me smile. 

SNOOPING SISSY:  You have both long and short breaks within the UK and abroad. What is your favourite country and destination and what others would you recommend?

POPPET: It is difficult to pick out a favourite place or country as the world is full of so many varied and interesting places. Owner doesn’t like the heat so we tend to avoid hot/tropical places. Countries we have really enjoyed include Chile, all the Nordic countries (we especially love Finland and Iceland) but also the Balkans. We got married in the USA (Las Vegas – at the end of a road trip from Phoenix to Flagstaff, Monument Valley and the Grand Canyon). We had hoped to renew our vows in the USA for our 10^th wedding anniversary. However, in the current circumstances we will not visit the USA. We love Canada though, or perhaps Mexico…

Owner and i are planning a trip to Japan in Spring next year which we are both really excited about. Hopefully there will be opportunities to dress up in super cute outfits!

SNOOPING SISSY: You like cosplay which is influenced from Japan. Can you explain your influences and when you first became interested in this?

POPPET: i have Owner to thank for this. She has been interested in Japanese manga and anime from childhood and was the one who introduced me to it. i love the fact that there are many super cute girls outfits and accessories to wear. There are also a number of trans characters which is nice to see.

Owner had me dress up and perform a little routine on stage at an anime convention in London in 2020. i was super nervous but also super excited to appear in front of strangers dressed in a cute manga maids style outfit, whilst also in chastity. Owner has advised me that i can expect to have to appear on stage next year too. i am already excited (and nervous) at the prospect. She will be choosing a new outfit for me to dress and appear on stage in.

SNOOPING SISSY: You put into writing a letter to Owner that you would like to be submissive. How did you feel writing the letter and awaiting a response? Did Owner have any inclination or just thought you were shy? Did owner have any previous feelings about dominating men and what did She initially feel reading the letter?

POPPET: i often find it easier to write things down rather than say them out loud, i feel less awkward and embarrassed and it gives me time to think what i want to say. Society teaches men not to be submissive and to ignore their feminine traits. Saying what you think and feel doesn’t always come easy. It can feel embarrassing (even if it is not), writing things down can be easier. i guess for Owner it also meant that she could read and re-read what i wrote and have written since (it has almost become a tradition that i put my hopes/fantasies in writing to Her).

OWNER: I never thought you were shy, because you are not. Before the letter I thought you might be a submissive, but I was not 100% sure. I am a dominant person in general, most my previous relationships were with men that were younger than me (or should I say boys?), so I always felt I was in control. But I never had a BDSM relationship, and I was happy to experiment.

SNOOPING SISSY: You advised that you realised once you started in a FLR that you like to be an exhibitionist. How did you deal with this initially, what strategies did you implement to help you overcome any problems/worries and what advice would you give to someone starting out in this activity?

POPPET: i have actually been an exhibitionist from quite a young age. As mentioned earlier, when talking about my childhood, i used to sneak out of my parents house and streak naked around our neighbourhood aged about 11 or 12. So I guess it is something that has been part of me for quite a while 😊 

i have grown bolder over the years and am less fearful of doing things/being seen by others than i once was. i enjoy pushing myself further and trying to be more risque and getting looks and comments from strangers, something that would once have terrified me. i really like the thought of potentially being mistaken for a street prostitute. i would regard that as being a real compliment. 

Our neighbours and countless delivery drivers, workmen etc have all now seen me dressed in micro skirts that barely cover my knickers or stockings etc. i find it quite thrilling and exciting to be seen dressed like this by others. i hope that they think i am a slut.

Believe it or not initially i was quite shy and nervous, and i still gets nervous at times today. i still think of myself as being a naturally slightly shy person. Like most things in life you find that once you have successfully tried something that you feel is challenging and difficult then the next time it becomes easier and the time after that easier still etc. The downside is that to get that same thrill and rush of excitement you have to keep pushing yourself a bit further, be more daring.

This might be a bad analogy but i think of it like this. i am scared of heights. i think it sheer madness/lunacy that anyone would ever want to climb a mountain or a building but i do understand the rush and the thrill that i think they get from doing it. i get a slightly similar rush, but in a far safer way, by exhibiting myself.

For a long time i would also try and avoid eye contact with people if they looked at or commented about me. Nowadays i try my best not to be shy and bashful and instead force myself to try and act as if i was dressed in the most normal way and doing the most normal of things (and mostly i am!) i now like it when people notice me and say things about me or to me. Most people are lovely.

If you are starting out then maybe go somewhere where nobody you know will see you and just try something slightly daring, a little risque. It is scary at first, but that is also quite an exciting feeling. Take some pictures of yourself and study others and practice poses (Owner says that at first i posed like a plank). Don’t let yourself get too comfortable, keep challenging yourself to go a bit further but also be mindful of others. This is not about exposing yourself sexually to anyone. That is offensive and is also against the law and is not what this is about. i have no desire at all to scare or intimidate others or cause alarm.

i would, however, like to be seen and thought of as being quite a slut. As i say, if someone mistook me for a street prostitute i would be thrilled.

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