i am now back home with Owner (yippee) having been separated for four days whilst i stayed down in Devon to visit my Dad in hospital. It is wonderful to be reunited with Owner and for life to temporarily return back to normal before i head west again for another hospital visit.
Yesterday, whilst i was visiting my Dad, i wheeled him in his chair for a drink in the hospital canteen. Whilst we were there we had a conversation that really moved me and which i wanted to share.
My Dad was reminiscing about when he was young (the thing with Alzheimers is that long-term memory can be excellent even if the short-term memory is non-existent). He was reminiscing about his childhood and saying
how difficult he found it with his own dad who was quite macho
whereas my dad was not and was more feminine.
My
Dad said how he much preferred female company and had tried during his life to be in touch
with his feminine side and how his dad had ridiculed him for this. I always knew
he had a bad relationship with my grandfather (or Gan-Gan as i called
him) and that my Dad had a difficult childhood. He adored his mother
but really disliked his dad who had also come back from the Second World
War a total stranger to him and someone who was very mentally scarred by his wartime experience and took it out on his family.
Anyway, my Dad said to me that i am a lot like him in that i am quite feminine but that i have got
much more in touch with my feminine side than he ever was able to and that he was
proud of me and loved me.
It was
such a lovely and surprising thing to hear him say. He and i also had a terrible
relationship when I was young (we basically did not have one) but we gradually learnt to get along much better after my parents divorced when I was 18.
It's so nice to know he has 'seen' me and understands me in a small way. It is a conversation i will always treasure and remember. i am so pleased i got to have it with him.
When i relayed the conversation back to Owner She was very moved how interesting and touching it was that he had said that to me.
Anyways, i just wanted to share it.
4 comments:
Happy for you to hear this. Families can be a bit of a minefield to navigate at times. i wondered before how your family have reacted or even know about the lifestyle you lead with Owner. Stay strong!
snooping sissy
Thanks snooping sissy and they can be indeed! My family knows some aspects of me but not all aspects of Owner and my relationship, the same with Her family.
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Lovely story. Must be lovely to hear too. As for your pics at the hospital you look just like a perfectly normal female visitor. Why would anyone see otherwise. You should be proud x holly x
Thanks Holly
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