A Day of Discipline, Domination and Decadence

What a lovely day today is turning out to be!

After completing my chores, exercises and studies this morning Owner led me into Her bedroom, laid me down on the bed and then proceeded to spank my bare buttocks with Her wooden paddle, leaving my cheeks flushed pink and throbbing.

Paddling administered She then surprised me by telling me to get ready as She was taking me out for lunch. We arrived early at Canary Wharf, our table was booked for 12.30, so Owner decided that She would like to have a pre-lunch drink with Her wife and so we stopped off in a bar where i was allowed to have an Asperol spritz with Her before we headed next door to the restaurant. 

In the restaurant Owner permitted me to join Her in having a second spritz before we ate. We had a lovely lunch together. However, the treats did not stop there. Lunch finished Owner then took me shopping and chose a lovely little black dress and a pair of heels for me in the sales.

After paying for my new clothes Owner then took me into a new Korean make-up store that has recently opened and let me buy some new lipstick Shopping completed we then had a coffee before heading home.

As per Owners instructions, after arriving home i then put one of my old dresses in the recycling before quickly modelling my new outfit for Her.

Later in the day Owner then electrocuted my clit and labia multiple times and then followed me into the bathroom for me to have a brief supervised shower. She unlocked my caged clit and let me remove it and observed as i shaved my clit and scrubbed it clean with a nail brush before it was safely locked back up again.

It really has been a lovely day. Here are a few pictures from it:

Face down on the bed, a pillow under my hips, with Owner and Her wooden paddle

post-paddling pink blush on my buttocks

 

Having a drink before lunch

Owners and my lunch

New heels and LBD

Label still attached!

Electrocuted with labia clamps and electro clit device

Owner's key unlocks my chastity device for a supervised shower

Cage cleaning

Clit shaving

Clit cleaning with nail brush

Safely locked up again

Thank you Owner for a wonderful day.

A Field Guide to Peeing in Chastity

A bit of a divergence from my usual posts this one, this is aimed at anyone who is new to or considering being locked in chastity for longer than an hour or two. 

What follows is based on over fifteen years of lived experience of being locked in chastity 24/7 for much of the time. It deals with the question of how to urinate in chastity and also offers some practical suggestions that i have found useful in my own life. Feel free to add any additional suggestions in the comments. Anyway, here goes.

Great! You have taken the decision, or have had the decision taken for you, that your penis is going to be locked into chastity for longer than just a quick role-play session. This means that, inevitably, you are going to need to pee whilst locked up. What follows may seem obvious but they may not be to a newcomer to the thrilling world of male chastity.

• You will need to sit down to pee. This in itself is, in my opinion, a good enough reason in its own right to require all men be placed in chastity. I mean, the state of most men's toilets/urinals is frankly disgusting as men seem incapable of 'hitting their mark'. Being locked in a device means you will need to sit down to pee.

sitting down to pee

• You will need access to toilet roll/tissues - especially if you have a very small cage (tip - these are actually the most comfortable ones to wear) - when you pee. Most men simply shake their cock and then stuff it back into their underwear when peeing standing up. You can still 'shake dry' when locked and sitting down. However, some pee will also wet the end of your cage. If you are wearing a flatter/nearly flat cage you will also find that some pee may take a few more seconds to make its way out of your body as it tries to pass through your permanently compressed penis. So my tip is always a) wait 30 seconds after you have finished to ensure all the liquid has come out and b) always carry a pack of tissues with you to dry your cage off - it's really frustrating to get to a cubicle only to find there is no toilet roll, this happens a lot.

drying off with toilet paper post-pee

• Being in chastity will show you how sexist the design of toilets are in most buildings. Women have to sit down to pee whereas most men pee standing up. However, women's toilets typically have hardly anymore cubicles in them than do men's - meaning women all too often end up having to queue to pee. Being in chastity means you too will get to experience the frustration of waiting for a cubicle to come free with no other way of passing the time other than watching a procession of men piss in the urinal whilst you stand and wait, and wait, and wait.

• Remove and clean your device regularly as any urine that gets trapped in it will quickly become stale and stinky! Shower heads are great for blasting water and soap through your device each day whilst you stay locked. However, you will also need to take it off for regular cleaning - forget the fantasy of locking it on and throwing away the key, it will need to periodically come off unless you have no desire for any human contact as all will avoid you due to the smell. Unlock the device (ideally under supervision) and clean. This is also a good opportunity to scrub and clean your penis. i use a nail brush for both (avoids accidental arousal) whilst Owner looks on. It is also a good opportunity to shave. Top tip is that plastic devices will eventually pick up the smell of urine, metal ones will not, so will need replacing every 2-3 years or so. i also have a little, pink (obviously) douche that Owner got me that i use to flush my clit and cage after each pee by squirting a jet of soapy water into it

my little, pink, re-fillable douche

• Night time erections whilst caged can make peeing at the same time difficult/impossible -contrary to popular belief chastity cages do not fully prevent erections, you still get them, it is just they are mostly kept inside your body (your penis can expand internally as well as externally). You will definitely still experience the phenomenon of night-time/early morning erections. The contents of your cage will become swollen, but not painfully so. If it is painful then it is likely that the base ring of your cage is too small, go up a size. However, it does mean that peeing whilst swollen like that is difficult or may even be impossible. Be patient, your erection will subside and you will be able to empty your bladder.

• Regulate your flow - if you are wearing a cage and you try to blast out a stream of pee the chances are that it will back up (as it can't escape your cage fast enough - unless a true cage design) and you'll end up with pee squirting out the top of your cage onto the toilet or, even worse, splashing into your knickers or on your skirt/blouse. Use your muscles to direct a controlled and steady stream of urine that goes where you want it to go, avoiding splash backs and oddly damp clothing.

A note on urethral tubes 

Some, especially small or flat cages come with added urethral tubes (in either plastic or metal) to insert in the head of your penis to facilitate easier urination - avoiding the possibility of trapped pee that i referred to in point 2 above. Personally, i have never worn and so have no experience of these tubes (and my cage is no deeper than a finger nail). Others report that using them can carry a risk of bladder infections (which can become quite serious) unless they are cleaned very regularly, but if good hygiene practice is employed i have been told by people who do use them that they are quick to get used to and do make peeing in flat cages easier.

And that's it. Good luck if you are just setting out on a chastity journey. i for one am amazed how natural being locked came to feel for me, i hope that it will be for you too.

For regular readers normal posting will resume, i just wanted to post something a little more practical that i hope some may find useful.

Smack and Zap

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56 Years Young

Yesterday marked my 56th year spent on this planet and what an amazing day it proved to be. Owner always goes out of Her way to make my birthdays feel super special and this year was no exception.

i awoke to presents and a delicious a chocolate birthday cake breakfast, how delightfully decadent, from Owner. Her main present to me, which i am afraid remains under wraps until the big public reveal in late February, was a Marin Kitagawa school girl uniform from the anime My Dress-Up Darling. i will be dressed as Marin at the London anime festival and will also be appearing on stage as her. As you can imagine i am both hyper excited and hyper nervous about the prospect!

Owner also presented me with a lovely silver charm bracelet. 

After opening my presents and devouring some cake it was time for me to roll this month's outdoor challenge dice. They determined that i was to wear a mini-skirt and hoodie at our local DLR light rail station. This provided an opportunity to show off some of my other presents, namely new boots from my Mum and a new hooded top from my Mother-in-Law.

Here i am outside the station, completing my challenge whilst also wearing an 'It's My Birthday' headband and Hello Kitty hair grip.

new boots and hoodie with fishnets and mini-skirt

Later, after work, Owner and i headed out to Wembley to watch WWE Smackdown wrestling. Owner is a huge fan of wrestling and i love the women wrestlers outfits (so pretty - i am quite jealous of them!). We had great views from our seat and had an enjoyable evening. Before the wrestling we both went for a pre-tournament bite to eat and a drink.

It was a wonderful birthday, made extra special by being able to spend it with my Owner and receiving such lovely gifts and treats from Her. i didn't let it go completely to my head though, i did make sure that i did some housework as well.

Anyway, here are some images from my special day

birthday cake, presents, card and challenge dice

blowing out the candles and getting ready to cut my cake and open presents

my lovely new bracelet

outdoor challenge dice

Setting off to complete my outdoor challenge in my mini skirt, fishnet stockings and new birthday boots and hooded top. 

leaving the flat

on the main road

Until finally i made it to the station. i posed outside and then posed a few more times as i did a circuit around the station before heading down to the platforms

It was such a fun photoshoot to do. i was still very nervous setting off as it is about a ten minute walk to the station and involved walking along busy roads and passing lots of people and traffic, all in my tiny skirt with stocking tops and my knickers showing! i actually got followed by a young man on the way back who seemed to enjoy looking closely at the view of my posterior.

i was proud of myself for having completed my first outdoor challenge of the year and Owner was happy with how i got on too.

i didn't show off more flesh as my belly tattoo is very much in its gunky/scabby healing stage. However, it should be fully healed in a few weeks time.

Here are some images from our night out at the wrestling. 

at a nearby pub for pre-match drinks and food

Owner and me in our seats

a rapt crowd

female wrestling action

It was a wonderful birthday made super special by my amazing Owner.

New Tattoo

Today it was a case of our with the old and in with the new. The belly tattoo i had done before Owner and i properly got together (over 20 years ago), and which She never liked, was replaced with something new, prettier and more appropriate for Her wife (me).

Yes it hurt, a lot, but it was worth it. Here is the finished tattoo covered in a temporary protective second skin

 And here is some documentary evidence of the process:

 

photo taken a few weeks ago showing my old tattoo

stencil outline in place over old tattoo

work underway

taking a break halfway through

Owner was happy with the finished tattoo. i love it and think it is much more appropriate. Thank you Mel from Gilt Moth Tattoo for a great cover-up

Enduring Pain for Owner

One of Owners' expectations of me is that i am to endure pain. Owner enjoys inflicting it and finds caning, whipping, beating. spanking etc my backside, the backs of my legs, my breasts and my clitty and labia and so forth to be exciting and arousing for Her. She also enjoys the thrill of electrocuting me and watching me squirm.

As for me, well i am not a natural pain slut but i have come to welcome and embrace the ritual of being hurt by Her. It is a very physical and obvious manifestation of Her dominance and authority over me that She can and does beat me for Her own pleasure and enjoyment. That She does so and that She will continue striking or zapping me even if i protest or beg Her to stop is something that i am in awe of. 

Owner has come a long way in that regard. She was, at first, concerned about hurting me. That did not last long and She rapidly evolved into a woman and Owner who was prepared to and will hurt and mark Her property i.e. me as She wishes. Meanwhile, i have become proud of my increased ability to withstand pain, to grit my teeth and grip the top of the sofa tighter as a fresh strike bears down on my reddened flesh.

Today She inflicted pain of a different variety, choosing to strike my exposed and vulnerable 'labia' with the twin metal evil sticks before electrocuting my tits. My skirt was lifted up, my panties removed and my legs secured to prevent me from thrashing around. Owner then struck me on my most sensitive bits between my legs one hundred times with the evil sticks. After my subsequent tit electrocution Owner chastised me for my continued low pain tolerance when it comes to being electrocuted by Her. Something i must learn to get better at enduring during 2026.

Here are some images from today's reminder of who is in charge 

the twin metal evil sticks resting on my buttocks

Owners target hang exposed and vulnerable between my securely spread legs, She struck them one hundred times

nervously waiting for my tits to be electrocuted

My proudest moment came when Owner and i went to the Dungeon back in October and Owner deployed a very thick and long cane that thudded hard against me and left my bottom and the backs of my thighs covered in deep purple bruises that last well over a week. Even Owner was quite shocked at how marked i was the day after. In truth though, i loved it and was so, so proud to have been left bruised at Her hands.

my buttocks were still heavily bruised days after my dungeon beating

However, even those bruises faded, as all bruises eventually do, over time.

There is, however, another form of pain that i endure for Owner that leaves a mark that is not temporary in nature but which will, instead be visible and present for the remainder of my life. i refer of course to tattoos.

Owner loves to have me marked with symbols of Her ownership of me, my submission to Her and of my femininity. i currently have 11 tattoos, 9 of which were done at Owners request and to Her specification/design. Of the two that were not, both are legacies of that time in my life when Owner and i were unknown to each other (up until the year when we both turned 35 years old). 

The first such pre-Owner tattoo is on my left upper arm and was the first tattoo i ever had done. i got it when i was 22 years old. At the time i actually had no intention of getting a tattoo. i had gone into the parlour on behalf of a friend of mine to enquire about piercings as she was interested in getting one. i got the information i sought but also somehow ended up leaving with a tattoo. i later came to realise that the design sort of looks similar to the Bacardi logo - ironically i have never drunk Bacardi in my life. However, i don't mind it and, most importantly, neither does Owner.

The second of these pre-Owner tattoos was done during the brief window of time when Her and i were known to each other but at the time were 'just friends'.  It is located on my lower abdomen, just below my belly button. Owner has never liked it and advised me that She wanted me to get it covered over.

Which brings me to what is happening on Tuesday this week. After discussing ideas with Owner i had a consultation with a tattooist at the end of last year about a cover-up tattoo. It will need to be quite big as the existing tattoo stretches across my abdomen. The current one also contains colour so the cover-up will also need to incorporate colour as well.

What Owner and i agreed was that the cover-up design must better reflect my femininity, ideally incorporating flowers and also a half-crescent moon design. Given that the tattoos around my breasts frame these using laurel leaves we also thought that incorporating a laurel element could look good.

i discussed all of this with the tattooist during a consultation with her in November and then subsequently sent her some examples of women with lower abdomen flower and half-crescent etc tattoos that i had come across on Pinterest and which i liked. i also discussed with her my desire to also drop some of the design of the cover-up lower down my abdomen so that it is level with my hip and pelvis.

The tattooist warned me that it will be a painful tattoo to have done as lower abdomen tattoos can be more painful. i remember when the original was done that the process was painful. It will also take a while, potentially 5-6 hours.

As was the case in October when i had the lock tattoo done on my left upper buttock i will also be in chastity and, as was the case then, there will be no way of hiding that fact from the tattooist given where on my body she will be working.

i am nervously excited about the procedure but Owner and i both hope that the resulting design will be prettier than the current and a more appropriate reflection of my feminine self. i hope it will make my lower body more appealing on the eye for Her and can't wait for the day when i can show it off in public in a bikini.

Obviously blog readers will also be privy to the new tattoo and i look forward to receiving your comments and thoughts on it after it has been done.

For me, it will also be another opportunity to endure pain for Owner and be left permanently marked to reflect me as Her decorative wife.